A child slams a door, bursts into tears, yells over a small disappointment, or completely falls apart when plans change. From the outside, the reaction can seem far bigger than the situation. But big feelings are rarely just about the moment in front of us. They are often a sign that the Control Tower is overwhelmed.

Have you ever wondered why two equally bright children can approach the very same problem in completely different ways? One child immediately starts making a list.

Few questions create more frustration for parents than this one: "If my child knows what to do, why aren't they doing it?" You remind them to turn in the assignment.