Resilience isn't about never falling. It's about learning that you can get back up. Every parent wants their child to be resilient. We want children who can handle disappointment, recover from mistakes, cope when things don't go as planned, and keep going when something is difficult. We want them to have what I call The Bounce Factor.

A child slams a door, bursts into tears, yells over a small disappointment, or completely falls apart when plans change. From the outside, the reaction can seem far bigger than the situation. But big feelings are rarely just about the moment in front of us. They are often a sign that the Control Tower is overwhelmed.