When a child argues about every instruction, refuses to start homework, procrastinates until the last possible minute, shuts down, or completely falls apart over something that seems small, it can be hard not to focus on the behavior.

Every August, families start with the best intentions. The backpack has a designated spot. The calendar is ready. Everyone knows what time they need to leave in the morning. Your child understands that homework comes before gaming, dirty clothes go in the hamper, and the permission slip really does need to make it from the backpack to the kitchen counter.

A child slams a door, bursts into tears, yells over a small disappointment, or completely falls apart when plans change. From the outside, the reaction can seem far bigger than the situation. But big feelings are rarely just about the moment in front of us. They are often a sign that the Control Tower is overwhelmed.